He must increase, I must decrease

The longer I am a Christian, the more I see I don't know anything. We live in such a way to cause offense and be a stumbling block to others instead of revealing Christ to them. How do I live in a way that only reveals Christ? Oswald Chambers said that "a person who is a beautiful sait can be a hindrance in leadning people to the Lord by presenting only what Christ has done for him, instead of presenting Jesus Christ Himself." That is what we do. But how do we live? If we remain 'holy' and separated, we seem self-righteous, stay in our own little box and minister to ourselves- we are no good to the world, no good to the cause of preaching the gospel to the whole world. We can become too spiritual to be any earthly good. However, if we go out in the world, instead of being salt, we are influenced by them and fall into compromise. Then others fall because they think we have gone astray. I see this with my own kids. I stay home from some services to study.. there is no law that says we have to be there everytime the doors open, I feel ok with the Lord on this, but they question why and see it as insincerity, this cause them to stumble. The Lord gives us liberty, but it seems when we use this liberty, it causes others to stumble. So the Lord gives us liberty, but yet when we practice it in open, it causes others to stumble, but hide it away and do it in secret, and it becomes hypocrisy. What a paradox it seems, but I know it cannot be. How do we make something so simple so difficult? How do we live in a way that is relative to the world, but still stand in purity and holiness, not hiding ourselves under a 'bushel'?

OC also said " God makes us pure by an act of His sovereign grace, but we still have something that we must carefuly watch. It is through our bodily life coming on contact with other people and other points of view that we tend to become tarnished." How do we also not accept sin in others lives without judging them. We judge sooo much, yet we make exceptions for ourself.

Lord, show me how to live in a way that lifts you up, that keeps me unblemished from the world, but that draws people to you. Help me to love an accept others, but not accept sin in my life.